Seriously! Who made that voice in my head the boss???
I’ve started hearing some of the things she says to me and she is mean! Things she says, I actually repeat without even questioning her! I listened to her more closely this week and when I finally woke up enough to challenge her, she shut down! I admit, my life is a little quirky. I have a deep passion for raising Monarch butterflies (I have over 100 eggs, caterpillars and chrysalis in my garage as I write). I LOVE Zinnias and plant them all over town. I wrote a book about them and spent over $500 getting seed packets made to hand out. And I take care of 7 horses every morning that aren’t mine. I say things like, “I know, I’m weird” and “what’s wrong with me?” and “I’m such a dork!” These little put downs might seem like nothing but said over and over, I just realized they have a way of undermining my self-confidence. Add to that, beating myself up for not living up to other’s expectations . . . no, wait. Correction. It isn’t even other’s expectations, it’s really the voice in my head magnifying what SHE thinks others expect and then holding ME to that standard. NO one else does.
Dr. Kristin Neff is an expert on self-compassion. I was turned on to her by another AMAZING human being, Jessica Schultz of BeYOUtiful Minds and Fitness in Madison, Wisconsin. Dr. Neff states, “Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings – after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect?”
Could someone please tell that voice in my head that??????
Oh wait, I CAN! I can begin by challenging her assumptions. Hmmmmm…. so why does it have to be weird and dorky to do these things? Who gets to decide, anyway? What if reframe it. “I am really passionate about really cool stuff.” I’m not a dork, I’m a delight!” How will that impact my day?
I am just grateful I finally heard the voice. Realized that SHE isn’t me. For my entire life, she has been talking crap about me and I believed her! That stops today. I realize that the voice in my head is just trying to keep me small and safe. But I am a grown up now and I can take care of my SELF! I am so done not being enough and doing enough.
I went online and looked through hundreds of affirmations and chose ten that resonated with me. Each morning, while cleaning horse stalls or working in the garden, I repeat them to reprogram my brain to begin saying GOOD things about me.
After all, I have planted in ME the seed of the essence of GOD! I’m gonna focus on growing THAT!
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