Another huge lesson for me was understanding the difference between being SELF-centered and self-CENTERED. I was raised to believe it made me a good person if I put everyone else first. What I came to realize is that I mattered just as much as everyone else. I was so selfless that I didn’t take care of myself. I was so preoccupied with everyone else that I didn’t even consider what taking care of myself looked like.
It wasn’t until I read Cheryl Richardson’s book about extreme self-care that I began to understand that it isn’t selfish to put myself and my needs first, so long as I am considerate and caring of others also. That message was further ingrained in me during a chance meeting with a very wise soul named Daniela Popa. Visiting the U.S. from Romania, we sat across the small table at Panera Bread in Madison, Wisconsin, where she helped me to script my mantra:
“Today, no matter what I’m doing, no matter who I’m doing it with and no matter where I‘m going, it is my primary intent to please myself, because it brings me joy, putting me in alignment with my Spirit. And that is the greatest gift I can give the world.”
Never would I have considered allowing myself the gift of pleasing myself first. But in doing so, I truly bring joy to those around me and that makes everyone happier.
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