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The Power of the Seed


Life.

That saying, “Sometimes you’re the windshield and sometimes you’re the bug”, sure does fit. It’s crazy how you can feel so on top of the world one day and the next, like you got hit by a freight train.

Feeling powerlessness has such a deep impact on one’s mood and relationships.

And it is SO my go-to response.  Whenever life doesn’t go my way, my knee-jerk reaction is as if I am the victim to whatever is up against me.  Depending on the situation, I can stay stuck in it for days, weeks even!  It’s crazy!

The truth is, I am NEVER really powerless.

I am the Creator of my life.  It is up to me to decide what kind of life I want to live.  Unfortunately, THEN I have to take steps to create that life.  I have to face my fears, sometimes do what I don’t want to do. But I know it will move me closer to what I want.

I love contemplating the power of a seed.  This tiny little piece of nothing, when placed in dirt, given water and sunlight, blooms into a whole bunch of something!

It grows because that is what it was created to do.

As were we.  When I look back at my life, I can’t find a single instance where circumstances didn’t work out in a way that blessed me beyond measure.  Or taught me lessons that helped me to grow, or shifted me to a place where I could prosper.

And yet,

Every time I slide back into that powerless feeling, I allow it to suck me under.  I forget that ALL is well.  And that I am on point to bloom beyond measure.  All I have to do is trust.  It’s easy to do that when I stay in this moment. It’s when I get out in front of myself that I begin to hyperventilate.

So today, I tap into the power of the seed.

I choose to BE right here, where I am planted, and trust that my Creator is growing something amazing out of me.

And YOU too.

Cheri Neal is a dynamic professional speaker, trainer, coach and public service professional.  She mixes a powerfully refreshing blend of education, energy, and entertainment, engaging participants with right-on-time concepts for enhancing their lives at work, home and in their communities.  Contact Cheri today to see how she can support YOU at http://www.CheriNeal.com.

 

Who made that voice in my head the boss???

Seriously! Who made that voice in my head the boss???

I’ve started hearing some of the things she says to me and she is mean!  Things she says, I actually repeat without even questioning her!  I listened to her more closely this week and when I finally woke up enough to challenge her, she shut down!  I admit, my life is a little quirky.  I have a deep passion for raising Monarch butterflies (I have over 100 eggs, caterpillars and chrysalis in my garage as I write).  I LOVE Zinnias and plant them all over town. I wrote a book about them and spent over $500 getting seed packets made to hand out.  And I take care of 7 horses every morning that aren’t mine.  I say things like, “I know, I’m weird” and “what’s wrong with me?” and “I’m such a dork!” These little put downs might seem like nothing but said over and over, I just realized they have a way of undermining my self-confidence.  Add to that, beating myself up for not living up to other’s expectations . . . no, wait.  Correction.  It isn’t even other’s expectations, it’s really the voice in my head magnifying what SHE thinks others expect and then holding ME to that standard.  NO one else does.

Dr. Kristin Neff is an expert on self-compassion.  I was turned on to her by another AMAZING human being, Jessica Schultz of BeYOUtiful Minds and Fitness in Madison, Wisconsin.   Dr. Neff states, “Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings – after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect?”

Could someone please tell that voice in my head that??????

Oh wait, I CAN!  I can begin by challenging her assumptions.  Hmmmmm…. so why does it have to be weird and dorky to do these things?  Who gets to decide, anyway?  What if reframe it. “I am really passionate about really cool stuff.”  I’m not a dork, I’m a delight!”  How will that impact my day?

I am just grateful I finally heard the voice. Realized that SHE isn’t me. For my entire life, she has been talking crap about me and I believed her!  That stops today. I realize that the voice in my head is just trying to keep me small and safe.  But I am a grown up now and I can take care of my SELF! I am so done not being enough and doing enough.

I went online and looked through hundreds of affirmations and chose ten that resonated with me.  Each morning, while cleaning horse stalls or working in the garden, I repeat them to reprogram my brain to begin saying GOOD things about me.

After all, I have planted in ME the seed of the essence of GOD!  I’m gonna focus on growing THAT!

Cheers!

Cheri Neal is a dynamic professional speaker, trainer, coach and public service professional.  She mixes a powerfully refreshing blend of education, energy, and entertainment, engaging participants with right-on-time concepts for enhancing their lives at work, home and in their communities.  Contact Cheri today to see how she can support YOU at http://www.CheriNeal.com.

 

What Book is Helping YOU to Shift?

I finally signed up for an Audible membership.

There are SO many books I was dying to read but there was never the time.  Even when there was, I’d fall asleep within the first few pages! So, ‘reading’ books that are being read to me seemed like a great alternative.

And it was.

I find myself traveling a lot on the weekends.  Being able to sink into a good book while driving has become an absolute treat!  Here are the books I have listened to this month:

  • The Miracle Morning, The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life – Before 8am by Hal Elrod
  • You are a Badass, How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero
  • The Subtle Are of Not Giving a F*ck, A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson

You might have noticed a theme here.

Most who know me would assume they are research for my speaking presentations.  The truth is, I have been out of sorts for quite a while now.  I have yet to uncover exactly what is at the root of my dis-ease but having been a recovering alcoholic for over 30 years, I don’t take it lightly.

I am in the middle of a serious shift.

See, my entire life I dreamed, but couldn’t even say out loud, that I wanted to be a professional speaker.  I was so afraid of what people would say.  Then a series of ‘coincidences’  landed me smack dab in the center of my dream.

  • I met speaker Matt Booth, who connected me with the Wisconsin Chapter of the National Speakers Association.
  • I joined their academy and was gifted the most amazing fairy god-mother, I mean mentor, Susan Young.
  • I crafted my talks, created a marketing sheet, website, joined Toastmasters to hone in on my skills, published my first book, and today I AM a professional speaker.
  • I even work with Bonnie Davis, a virtual assistant, to help me with the details.

All in a couple of years.

It seems my body hasn’t caught up with my spirit yet.  Something I’d dreamed of for over 30 years, I am now doing.  It took courage, faith, showing up, following through, not listening to the voice in my head that tried to shut me down, and investing money I didn’t have, trusting it would pay dividends beyond my wildest dreams.

What’s that quote?  Fake it til you make it?  That’s what I did. I still have a long way to go, but I HAVE made it.

What have I learned from the books listed above?

  • To love myself. A message that echoes time and time again in every stage of my life. How ironic that it is so difficult to live.
  • I practice 10 affirmations and do a visualization while mucking horse stalls each morning.
  • And I stopped caring about so much. I am starting to care most about MY dreams.  I am not taking for granted my responsibilities, but I am also not saying yes to everything and everyone else.

What’s your dream?

What are you waiting for?  Life is WAY too short to wait one more day.  It isn’t comfortable, but oh is it worth it!

Cheri Neal is a professional speaker, coach and public service professional. Cheri helps people turn adversity into opportunity so that they can live engaged, fulfilling, and prosperous lives. A dynamic speaker and trainer, Cheri mixes a powerfully refreshing blend of education, energy and entertainment, engaging participants with right-on-time concepts for enhancing their lives at work, home and in their communities. To hire Cheri for your next event: http://www.CheriNeal.com.